THERE IS NO END TO FIGHTS AND CONFLICTS
Master Jun Hong Lu: Each of you must remember that there is no end to fights and conflicts. Today you fight with this person, tomorrow that person, conflicts are endless. With all those inconsequential things you fight and jostle for in life, do you think they will lead you to any positive outcome at all?
Once you are involved in a conflict, your level of spirituality drops, making yourself an object of insult. Good things are not obtained through fights. Things you forcefully gain are never yours because what is rightfully yours are things that come to you while you accord with conditions. That is why it is said, one can see no end in fighting.
Many problems can be resolved with the passing of time. For example when a couple has an ugly fight and one of them goes, “I insist that you give me a good explanation now! Otherwise, I won’t let things slide…” Lo and behold, they end in divorce. Had both parties been patient and accommodating for just a moment, the problem would eventually become insignificant as time passes. That said, to get there, one must grit his teeth, understanding that with the passing of time, everything will be over.
That is why it is said, with patience and forbearance you will see the end of a problem. On the contrary, there is no end to fighting. This is because when one party steps back and concedes, the other will stop fighting. Hence, it is best to practise forbearance.
The Buddha said that Buddhism is a religion that doesn’t contend. Why is Buddhism respected by many people? Because there is no rivalry as far as Buddhism is concerned.
In fact, fighting is looked upon as a deviation from the Buddhist principles. A person who is often mired in conflicts with others is definitely not going to be well-liked. All of you must understand this rationale.
Source: Master Jun Hong Lu’s Buddhism In Plain Terms, Volume 4 Chapter 20
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