THREE WAYS TO AVOID BEING ANGRY
Master Jun Hong Lu: When someone in your family is angry, the first thing you should do is to stay away. But for many people, their first reaction is to put themselves on a collision course with their spouse, only to be embroiled in a heated exchange. In fact, just like a house on fire, the very first thing you should do is to flee the scene. You can find a way to put out the fire afterwards. Thus, to stay away is a very good approach.
The second approach is diversion of attention. When a family member is in a fit of anger, you can either change the subject or take the spouse out on a shopping trip.
Thirdly, learn to resolve the conflicts. When you get an earful from the other party, you should not retaliate. Instead, you should find a friend and sit down for a talk. There is no smoke without fire. There must be some reasons why the wife loses her temper today, or the husband is unhappy today.
Understanding the working of karma helps elevate a person’s state of mind. View someone’s wrath against you as an opportunity to make you a better person because it helps identify your weaknesses. In this way, you’ll be able to rectify your shortcomings and learn to control your emotions. Whoever can control their emotions is already a winner.
Source: Master Jun Hong Lu’s World Buddhist Fellowship Meeting, Paris, France, 1 October 2017
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