WAYS TO AVOID MAJOR MARITAL CONFLICTS
Master Jun Hong Lu: From the Buddhism perspective, forbearance is the key to maintaining family harmony. Let me share with everyone several ways to avoid major marital breakdown.
Firstly, when a couple is having a row, do not criticise your spouse’s parents or someone he/she respects, as it could easily hurt your spouse’s feelings.
Secondly, after the quarrel, do not give each other the silent treatment, as it may worsen the situation.
Thirdly, try not to discuss your family situations with mutual friends, because it will further escalate the tension when it reaches the ears of your spouse.
My point here is to tell you the way to resolve your negative karmic affinities, while maintaining the positive ones. For those of you who have started practising Buddhism, it is important to recite the Mantra to Untie Karmic Knots because it was the negative karmic affinities and fate that brought a couple together. With these in mind, we can keep advancing in our Buddhist practice.
Source: Master Jun Hong Lu’s Public Talk, Boston, USA, 2012
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