REGARD EVERY SITUATION AS A NORMAL PHENOMENON
Master Jun Hong Lu: It is a must that all Buddhist practitioners uphold the Buddhist precepts in all their actions. As mentioned before, as long as you do not impose yourself on others, you will not be planting bad karma.
Instead, you should regard everything in this world with equanimity. Everything is alright in your regard as it is experienced as a natural phenomenon.
If your husband mistreats you today, you can think to yourself, “That’s normal because I am karmically indebted to him”. If you are unhappy at work today, it is deemed to be normal simply because your work is not up to scratch, and you haven’t been conducting yourself well. Today, if your child behaves badly towards you, that’s normal too; after all you did not carry out your responsibility as a parent to instil good moral values in him. If you can view all the good and bad things that happen to you as entirely normal, you will have an equanimous mind. Therefore, what’s there to be afraid of?
Many people unexpectedly develop a lump on their bodies but, with a calm mind, they will see that this happens to everyone. Without such a mental state, you might think, “Why did I get a lump? Could it be cancer? Did someone put a curse on me? Is someone trying to harm me?” Without an equanimous mind, what comes next will be a series of problems. Do you understand?
If your husband picks a fight with you, try your best to be nice to him. If it doesn’t work, just go with the flow. If you end up being single, so be it. Think about how many single mothers there are. It is no big deal. After all, it’s your karmic grievances, and you lack such good fortune, so just let it be. With such a line of thought, your mind becomes balanced, and you are said to have an equanimous mind.
If you suffer from hair loss, that’s normal. Think about how fortunate you are compared to those who lost their hair at a younger age. That’s how you should think.
Assuming that you have a painful experience today, think about how much better off you are compared to those who are locked up in jail. Instead, if you are someone who struggles with what is right and wrong in life, and unable to get over things, thinking that they are abnormal, you are no longer perceiving things with an equanimous mind.
Source: Master Jun Hong Lu’s Buddhism In Plain Terms, Volume 9 Chapter 3